He’s just not into you January 5, 2009

1. Keeping you at a distance is one important sign that shows that he is not into you. Phone calls go unanswered, he does not call back until a day, or two later or hardly shows any sign of physical interaction. Flirting or conversation ends quickly on his part when you two are together, can reveal that the spark is not there.

2. Make excuses every time you want to hang out. Staying occupied with other ‘important’ matters and making you last on his list is another way of brushing you off. In addition, a date cancelled at the last minute is not a good sign of someone that enjoys your company.

3. Bring his friends along the majority of the time when you want one-on-one time with him is another way of telling he really does not want to get to know you at a certain level. This is true when dates is centered around what he and his friends enjoy doing the most and just tagging you along to different places.

4. Less eye contact with you while talking. Guys who are smitten by a girl absolutely love to look a girl in the eyes as it had his way of saying that he really likes her. However if his eyes shifts everywhere around and hardly on you, you are not getting his full attention. Gestures say everything about a person and if you are getting a negative reaction, his interests in you is hardly there.

5. Talks about other women a lot whenever he is around you. This can be painful to hear especially when you are attracted to a guy and all he talks about is other females, how attractive they are or if he has a crush on one. While it may seem perfectly normal to have crushes and find another person good-looking, it can be a blow to the heart if he never compliments you or says the same things as he does about other women.

5 times not to text him January 4, 2009

There are several instances where texting can torpedo a relationship before it’s barely gotten off the ground:

1. After your first few dates. It may be tempting to contact a guy after an amazing date, but resist the urge. “Reaching out lessens the thrill of the chase for him,” says psychologist Diana Kirschner, PhD, author of the upcoming book Love in 90 Days.

2. When you’re drunk. Since phones don’t come with Breathalyzers, it’s up to you to stop yourself from sending a tipsy message — especially one that suggests you two meet up ASAP. “Being too available lets a guy know he has all the leverage,” Krieger says.

3. When you’re angry. It’s annoying when a guy flakes, but sending a “Why haven’t you called me?!” inquiry makes you look massively insecure. Avoid angry texts once you’re in a relationship too. “When it’s in writing, you can’t easily take it back,” Kirschner says. It’s even smart to ban bitchy humor, which can sound meaner than it is.

4. When you’re trying to be funny. ”When relayed nonverbally, sarcasm and joking can come off as aggressive,” according to Kirschner. A dude could read a message like “OMG, you were out of control last night” literally, which makes you sound pissed when you were actually just fondly remembering his funny behavior.

5. When you’ve already texted him that day. Once you’re in an ongoing relationship, you may be tempted to rely on texting as a regular form of communication, and there’s nothing wrong with staying in touch that way sometimes. But electronic communication discourages phone conversations and one-on-one time. Also, guys like brief updates, not a blow-by-blow of your life.
http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/relationships/relationships-and-texting-2